It is what it is

This seems to be the new phrase du jour for the last couple of years now.  You think about what it actually means and it may surprise you.  I've always known it to mean that you really can't help what things are in life.  You can't change things and what not.  However there is another meaning.  When someone does something nice for you, nine times out of ten you're wondering why they're doing what they're doing.  You always wonder if there is some kind of ulterior motive for why they're doing what they're doing.  However I have a suggestion.  Maybe they do it because, I don't know, they're just nice.  Seems like we're so enamored by the thought that someone has a hidden reason for doing anything that we don't just take for what it is.  Today I was at Food Lion.  I got myself some chicken wings and a soda.  Their chicken wings are great and I love Coca-Cola, so naturally I'd get some.  The gentleman in front of me was buying his groceries and just blurted out, "I'll get his too."  Totally caught me off guard.  The only thing I could do was thank him so kindly and tell him God bless him.  It was only like 5 bucks maybe for the whole thing, but he did it anyway.  That means something to me.  I'm not going to question why he did it.  I'll just do what you're supposed to do and just be thankful for it.  Seems as if more people could stand to learn how to just be thankful.  Just take whatever is given to and let it be what it is.  If someone shows you kindness with a hello or a word of good advice.  Maybe they offer you some help, say thanks and take it as that.  When someone is good to you, it is what it is.  They're just being good to you.  Don't take a simple hello or smile and turn it into a marriage proposal.  Don't take a simple invitation to a meal or excursion and turn it into some deep rooted infatuation.  It's just someone being nice to you.  Don't have to give them the cold shoulder or ignore them.  Just be thankful.  It is what it is.  Not every nice thing that happens to you has a deep rooted meaning.  We've become so cynical as a society that a great friendship can be ruined by miscommunication and misinterpretation between people.  You ever think that people being nice to you means, they're naturally nice to people in general?  We complain about how these young kids nowadays don't have any respect.  We fuss about how they treat people, particuarly their parents.  You ever think the reason they're this way is because they learned that nice things that happen to you means that the nice person has some kind of motive?  We're just telling our kids over and over, "Don't believe that people can be good to you for no reason."  Then minutes later, we're complaining about how someone is a suck up or what not.  Not a very good look, my friends.  Let the kindness be what it is, kindness.  It is what it is sometimes.

By the way, that internet radio show project will probably start up Monday evening around 6:30pm.  I'll post more info on it.  I promise you'll love it.  I'll have a call in number and we'll just shoot the breeze for about 30 minutes.